What should a baby sleep schedule look like?

Babies and sleep: a hot topic among new parents. Wondering what a sleep schedule might look like in other families at a certain age? How much sleep your little one needs? This blog will give you some guidelines for your baby's sleep schedule. But remember: every baby is different and the most important thing is your parental intuition. You'll always be the one in charge of finding a routine that works for you and your child. It's totally fine if that means you'll just keep doing what you're doing.

What is a good sleep schedule for my baby?

Every newborn baby has their own sleep rhythm and everything changes quickly those first few weeks and months. Individual children's sleep patterns vary, although there are similarities. Babies sleep a lot, but it is quite natural for young babies to wake up regularly. What constitutes a good sleep schedule depends on your child's age and temperament. Most newborn babies do not yet distinguish much between day and night, but after a few months your child will get a reasonable circadian rhythm.

Newborn babies have tiny tummies and need a feeding every 2 to 4 hours, so they wake up every few hours and usually don't sleep through the night. Feeding is a leading factor in newborn sleep patterns.

Especially during the early weeks, breastfeeding on demand is beneficial for milk production. Some bottle-fed babies benefit as well from feeding on demand. And you've undoubtedly noticed: a baby who isn't properly awake doesn't drink well. There's no point in forcing it.

During the first 3 months, your baby's sleep schedule is determined by the routine of sleeping, eating, changing, cuddling and sleeping again. As your baby grows, she/he can stay awake a little longer and becomes interested in playtime. Feeding and sleep become less strictly linked to each other.

As your child gets older, from about 6 to 7 months, food is less leading for sleep. Your baby's sleep cycles and wake windows become somewhat longer. Pay close attention to your baby's cues, in order to know when it is time for them to sleep.

• yawning

• rubbing the eyes

• looking away if you try to make contact

• whining

• crying

• staring

• clenching fists

• fidgeting with the ears

When you notice these signs, you know it's time to put your baby to sleep. An overtired baby may become upset and it may take longer for your child to fall asleep.

Would you like to add some structure to you and your baby's day? During the first few months, it is convenient to determine the time of the first and last feedings yourself. For example, you feed your baby around 7 a.m. In the evening, you can choose to give the last feed of the day around 11 p.m. (and any night feeds you give on demand). 

Do you prefer not to interfere in your child's sleep pattern? That may mean you are feeding at very different times every day. That doesn't have to be a problem if it doesn't bother you. For many breastfeeding moms, it feels natural to follow the baby's rhythm. To meet your own sleep needs, it can be helpful to get some daytime sleep together with your baby.

A total sleep cycle lasts about an hour for the first 6 months. So your baby usually goes through several sleep cycles during a nap. Sometimes your baby may appear to be "waking up" while just beginning the next active sleep phase. Therefore, a quiet environment during sleep may be important for your baby, while other babies benefit from white noise.

Babies go through a shorter sleep cycle than adults. Two sleep stages can be distinguished during sleep:

Active sleep (comparable to an adult's REM sleep)

In the active sleep phase, you see rapid eye movements, your baby sleeps superficially, moves its arms and legs, may laugh or cry briefly, and breathing is restless. Your baby still responds easily to outside stimuli such as sounds, touch and light. Newborns spend around half of their sleep time in REM.

The quiet or deep sleep

When your baby transitions to the quiet sleep phase, you will notice deep, calm breathing. Your baby lies still and relaxed and wakes up less easily.

When your baby is about 6 months, sleep patterns change. The difference between the day and nighttime becomes more obvious to your baby. This is due to the maturation process of the brain. Your baby will start sleeping for longer periods in a row at night. Even if your baby still wakes up at night for a feed, you will find that you will get more (consecutive) sleep in the coming months.

During the first year, wake windows keep lengthening. When your little one is about a year old, the differences between children become more pronounced. One child likes one long afternoon nap and another needs three short naps during the day. This depends on your toddler's temperament and activity level. For example, some children nap more in daycare than at home. Don't let the clock be your only guide: keep paying attention to your child's sleep cues. That way, you will automatically notice how much sleep your little one needs.

My baby has trouble sleeping through the night 

Do you constantly hear other parents say how well their little one sleeps and is your experience different? Know that not everyone's sleep expectations are the same. Some parents don't need unbroken sleep to function. Your baby may have trouble sleeping or staying asleep because of illnesses, teething, growth spurts or sleep regression. There are also many babies who still need a night feed after the first few months. So frequent waking can be normal, but it is important to watch for red flags, such as:

• Hourly waking

• Sleeping with open mouth or snoring

• Gasping or pauses in breathing

• Being very upset when waking and needing a long time to settle

• Obvious discomfort or pain

• Feeding problems

• Physical symptoms such as rashes or eczema

• Problems with bowel movements such as frequent constipation

• Very restless legs when sleeping

Do you notice one or more signs in your baby or do you feel that something isn't right? Be sure to consult your doctor or paediatrician.

Not every baby sleeps well in bed during the day. Some babies are easy to put down, while others wake up immediately upon touching their mattress. What if your baby sleeps poorly during the day? A nice baby carrier is the way to go. Your little one can peacefully fall asleep, snuggled up to you. Some babies like to nap in a bouncer, but what about a safe and ergonomic hammock? A baby hammock will gently bounce your baby to sleep and help your baby take long naps.

If you are curious about baby sleep schedules, you can find inspiration here. Note: an ideal infant sleep schedule that works for every child unfortunately does not exist. Does your baby sleep at different times, but usually wake up cheerful? That's the most important thing. Flexibility can be a breath of fresh air for your baby and yourself.

Gina and Yolanda both have over 25 years of experience as youth care nurses and were at the forefront of preventive care for 0-4 year olds. They specialize in basic care for infants and young children and are passionate about supporting young parents.